Talking about "success"..The mentality has to change..What would be your definition of success? You have good job with good pay.. are you successful? Or you have your degree, you completed your master? is that a success?
Well well well... do you realise that , what we see in life ...our children is absorbing it. They see us, they are watching us, they are getting input from us. Children have to see what is the real meaning of success..children as listening, always..
Let's look into what is our daily conversation? Are we talking about bills, paying quit rent , having new cars, movies? My dear friends, our children are listening into it!! They are autosaving it into their CPU, memories..."Ok,this is what adults are talking about, these are important things that I had to do when I grow up".
What is important in life...do we talk about quran, akhirat, doing good to others, helping people...and how would children see it. Effective parenting starts with parents...our children see it!
Do we really take a time to sit down , listen and play with the kids ..we are their real counsellors. We always talk about being best friend to children, but are we practising it? We have the organic natural relationship with them, they have the blood ties with us , they really close to us in nature, are we taking that opportunity? Do we really MAKE TIME to the children , just to talk and listen to them? or are we just TAKING THE TIME that we have before going to work, before leaving them in schools?
How are we going to be BIG PART of their life if we ourselves are ruining it? At the end of the day, we are going to be a wall, we are there, yes we exist with them. Is that what we want?
Education is important huh? They'll end up to be intelligent person if that is what you ask them to be. You sent them to private schools, you asked them to be in tuition classes to improve understandings in schools, you stress on them that it is important to achieve good grades! .....because that is what you think important to them. Yes, if that is what you want them to be, insyaAllah, your guidance will bring them to where they are suppose to be. They become good in making money if that is what you asked them to be . Is that what you want? But would that guarantees them to be good person?
To parents who have children under age of 10, the biggest job is to us to teach our children Islam. Whenever Allah talks about children getting guidance in Quran, it always come from parents. It doesn't matter whether you have easy kids or difficult kids- the main course to them is the teaching of deen, not from imam, khatib...it comes from parents!!
Have you spend time to recite quran with your children? Ops, What about you? do you recite quran everyday?Ohh..
Get 30 minutes for quran recitation session everyday.Thinking of program during school holidays?You are the program!! tarbiyah them..u are the best teachers for them!
Dear parents, we are so lucky that we are raised in muslim country, society, schools...they are giving you Islam. But we have no guarantee our children is going to be in Islam, they are exposed to varieties pollution out there ...people are not sure about Islam, about their faith!
So what parents are waiting for? Love quran, love it so much. Until your children could come out with their own words "my dad always talks about quran. Everything I know from my dad is quran, he likes reading it, memorising it, reading the translation. " "Ohh yes, my mom likes games, but on top of it, she loves to read quran and tell me stories from quran, there are so many interesting stories in quran"
Show Allah that you like his Book, have a direct relationship with it , and go to it for advice. . Allah will show you the path if you really show you are so obsess with it. Tell your kids stories from it, amazing stories about it, make sure you are amazed of it, so that they are impressed of it as well.
Long way to go dear !! Let's be on the track ..track in which Allah has created for us; with the guidance of Quran and our beloved prophet Muhammad pbuh:)